I'm Jonathan Braylock, I'm Dra. Milligan, and I'm James III. And we're those of Black

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of color and analyze them in the context of race and Hollywood's diversity issues.

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Warning. This podcast contains explicit language. Hi, I'm Stoya. I write and I use to make

video pornography. And I'm Rich Jesuyak. I'm a writer who frequently focuses on sex and

significant others. Welcome to the How To Do It podcast where we try to help you with

all of your sex and relationship issues twice a week. You can ask us anything about sex

or your bodies or dating etiquette or whatever. We're here to help. So expectations. Some

people have very few and some people have many. Yeah. My friend told me I sound like Yoda

when I say this, but I've been saying there is no should. There only is because I believe

that expectations can really disappoint you. You know, people have a vision of like what

things should be. And it kind of can distract from what is actually happening, what actually

is. And I think you kind of have to accept the reality now. That said, this is kind of

an argument against goals in a way, which is also its own problem because you can't

really accomplish a lot without a goal in mind. And what is a goal, but like a dearly

held expectation. All of my anarchist fur hairs are standing up. I'm over here making

faces. I'm like it's the capitalism of the whole thing. So the goal can be growth. The

goal can be staying where you are and relaxing. The goal can be spending a moment together

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