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How to Do It: I'm Worried About Cheating on My Girlfriend With My Wife

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🗓️ 16 January 2022

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

This week, Stoya and Rich answer a letter from a man who’s concerned he’s cheating on his girlfriend—with his wife. Then they hear from a woman who wonders how bad it is that she kept a secret from a new romantic interest. Slate Plus members get another episode of the How to Do It podcast every Monday. Sign up for Slate Plus now for just $1. Read the How to Do It column on Slate here. If you’re in need of sex advice from Stoya and Rich, write in here or leave a voicemail at ‪(347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show. Remember, it’s anonymous—and nothing is too embarrassing! Production by Chau Tu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

I'm Jonathan Braylock, I'm Dra. Milligan, and I'm James III. And we're those of Black

0:09.2

Pink and Jump in Hollywood. It's a comedic podcast that reviews films with leading actors

0:13.6

of color and analyze them in the context of race and Hollywood's diversity issues.

0:17.5

Yeah. Listen to new episodes on Mondays. Find us wherever you get your podcasts. I don't

0:22.6

care where you get them. I just want you to listen. Don't threaten the people we need

0:26.9

them to listen. Okay. Okay. Okay. Sorry, guys. Listen. Listen to us. Yeah. Yeah. Put on a

0:32.2

happy voice. You're listening to this week's free episode of How To Do It. Slate Plus members

0:44.4

get another episode of this podcast every Monday. And that's where we chat about some of

0:48.6

our juiciest letters. To hear those members only episodes and get access to all of our How

0:53.5

To Do It advice columns on Slate.com. Sign up for Slate Plus at Slate.com slash HDDIPLUS.

1:00.6

Warning. This podcast contains explicit language. Hi, I'm Stoya. I'm a writer and

1:10.3

pornographer. And I'm Rich Jesuyak. I'm a writer and sex hacker. Welcome to the How To Do It

1:16.0

podcast where we try to help you with all of your sex and relationship issues twice a

1:20.4

week. You can ask us anything about sex or your bodies or dating etiquette or whatever.

1:26.1

We're here to help. Do you think it's ever okay to lie? I mean, we get a lot of questions

1:33.0

from people who are very desperate. It seems to have moral clarity to the extent that

1:41.2

things become black and white. Yes or no? Always this, always that. I tend to think that

1:48.3

life is only in the gray area. Very few things are actually within those polls. And so I do

1:56.2

think it's okay sometimes to lie or at least like not bad enough to matter, but I'm wondering

2:02.0

what you think of, you know, from a philosophical perspective. I think I can get on board with

2:08.1

not bad enough to matter. I can also get on board with this would cause more harm than good

2:16.4

to broach and there was no direct question. So they could definitely see a lot of gray area

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