Welcome to the narcissistic abuse recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you

awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse to help you thrive.

I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are now and I believe you.

And this show is all about taking you from trauma to transformation.

So you found yourself married to a narcissist.

Oh, I can relate to all of this.

And you may even still be married to a narcissist and thinking about leaving or maybe you have started down that process of divorcing a narcissist

and realizing that it really is only just beginning. So the first thing that I want to say is

if you're still in that relationship with a narcissist and you are looking maybe

to leave at some stage, number one priority here for you is your safety. Okay. So make sure that if you are

thinking about leaving, that you really make sure that you maybe get photocopies of bank statements,

pensions, anything like that. Keep it in a box, a safe box somewhere that you know get photocopies of bank statements, pensions, anything like that,

keep it in a box, a safe box somewhere that you know that your partner will not find,

maybe start to put your passports in a place, birth certificates. So you've got something that

if you need to go at any stage, your safety is your priority. Because when we leave an abusive

relationship, the stats say in that first seven days,

that is actually where the most murders happen.

It's not when you're in that relationship.

So the reason why I wanted to say this just at the start here is it is vitally important

that you take your safety seriously and ensure that you have a team of people around you,

that you are safe and only do so when

you know that your safety cannot be compromised. So I just wanted to say that at the start.

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