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You actually created something that is really arousing for you. I just want to congratulate you

on that. It created some disappointment and misery,

but also there were a lot of moments of excitement.

Welcome to how to. I'm Carval Wallace. You may have already figured it out from the title,

but today's episode about finding your kink is probably not safe for work,

depending on where you work, I suppose.

But a more important heads up is that we do talk in passing about sexual trauma.

So if this one isn't for you, then please take care.

And we'll see you next week.

So we've done a number of episodes on sex over the years.

I mean, this is an advice show, and it probably won't surprise you that sex advice is something that people, a lot of people, are seeking.

And the main takeaway from most of those episodes is that you need to prioritize pleasure.

Sex should feel good. It should feel nourishing. It should feel connecting.

But what if your desire is a little more

taboo? Is there a world in which you can find consenting partners who are willing to explore and play?

Well, that's what my friend is here to learn. I'm Lily, and what brings me here today is just a desire to understand better what I'm into.

I feel like I just want to have more pleasure and more satisfying connections of people,

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