All right, welcome to The Man Talk Show. I'm Connor Beaton.

And today we're going to be answering a question that I get all the time from men through

Instagram, through Facebook, and the one-on-one work that I do with guys.

And that question comes down to how do I know if she's the one?

And, you know, first I just want to preface this by saying that I don't necessarily

believe in the one as a concept. I think that we in our modern day sort of post-romantic society

have idealized this concept of the one.

And we suffer immensely from oneitis, this idea that there is only one individual for you

and that if you mess up some relationship with this perfect being,

that you're never going to have that quality

or caliber of relationship again. And I don't buy that, mostly because of my own experience,

largely because of talking with countless of the people that have gone through heartbreak

that thought that they had found the one and it doesn't work out or somebody cheats or the relationship breaks down or whatever happens.

And on the other side of that, both people find partners inevitably, whether it's, you know,

a couple months later or a couple of years later, where they find a kind of relationship

in that new relationship that actually supersedes the previous one,

that actually outshines the previous one because there's sort of a limitation to how we can see

that relationship. And look, I think one of the challenges is that we're all looking for a connection.

Men and women alike, however you identify, whatever your sexual orientation is, everyone's looking for connection.

Everyone wants to find a home in the world, in some capacity, a home within the context of a relationship.

And so it's quite normal for us to look for that one. But I get to ask

the question all the time, how did you know that your wife was the one? And so this little list

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