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I think what we're both struggling with here, honestly,

is that we don't really have language for

actually telling the truth. To have clarity and certainty about becoming a parent, you

know I think most people don't frankly, you know, and even me saying that

out loud to you right now, I'm like, but, but I love them.

I know, I love you, honey, you're wonderful, you're everything to me. Welcome to how to.

I'm Charles Du Pick.

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And then we do some research and we track down... out how to solve one of life's problems.

And then we do some research,

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And usually the way that we learn about a problem

is that they send us an email at how to at slate.com.

And in fact that's how we heard from this week's listener,

who had emailed us actually from halfway across the world.

What is it, is it crazy early in the morning

in Australia right now?

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