Hey, this is Leo for actualized.org.

And in this episode, I'm going to be talking about how to deal with strong negative emotions. What you're about to get right here is the master key, the master key to dealing with all kinds of negative nasty emotions. This is the key right here.

What do I mean by strong negative emotions? Well I mean the entire spectrum. Everything from sadness to hurt, to loss, feelings that you have lost someone close to you as with a death.

The strong emotions and feelings that come with heartbreak

when someone has betrayed you or has abandoned you or has left you. Fear, nervousness, anger. So all that stuff, all the stuff we hate. How do we deal with these kinds of emotions effectively

I'm going to show you right here and it's extremely simple

the author of a book called The Road Less Traveled, Scott Peck, he says the following in that book, quote,

the tendency to avoid emotional suffering is the cause of all mental illness. To lead a healthy spiritual life we must face problems directly and experience the pain involved.

End quote. involved. negative emotions is very, very simple. It's to allow yourself to fully feel the

emotion. That's it. the solution.

This is a very counterintuitive solution, though.

Counterintuitive and counterintuitive is an interesting thing because to get success in almost any facet of life and to be doing effective personal development work. If you do a lot of it, what you're going to

discover is that success comes from counterintuitive moves. You have to do something

counterintuitive that normally your psyche would not want to do.

It's like the exact opposite of what you think you should do.

It's kind of like instead of running away from your assailant, you charge at your assailant.

That would be an example of a counterintuitive move.

And it's the same thing here. Now why is this counterintuitive? Why is it counterintuitive to just allow the negative emotion to wash over you and to feel it fully. Well because we don't want to let our guard down and we don't want to be vulnerable.

And we think that when we and we don't want to be vulnerable.

And we think that when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable,

that somehow this makes us weak,

and this exposes us to danger,

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