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You got some guys you were being a dick to you. You got some cock blocks. You got some A mobs as we call them alpha male of the group and you want to know how to deal with them. I'm going to teach you how to do that because in frame control, which basically means controlling the interaction

being in the driver seat when you're dealing with people frame control is usually most challenged by dudes definitely happens to women and a woman cannot become attracted to you unless you're controlling the frame.

So if you don't know exactly what frame control is, I'd strongly suggest you listen to any episode I've recorded on it. Just search frame control in my name and they'll pop up very, very important concept. But most of the time these frame checks, which is basically like somebody being an asshole to you, somebody challenging you, somebody saying that you're gay or why are you talking to us or making fun of your name, making fun of something you're wearing the way that you look the things that you're doing happens from guys guys are challenging you.

Now the reason we do this obviously is we're all dudes here. We know why we do it is because we're trying to flex up a little bit. We're trying to take the power in the interaction, which indeed means control in the frame. And oftentimes it's over a girl right like every time you see a dude fighting another dude. And especially if it's in a nightclub or a bar, what's the reason always a girl always a girl. You ladies listening out there have been the causes of many, many black eyes and bloody noses and but hurt feelings and challenges.

Dudes flexing up on other guys trying to make them feel bad trying to diminish their value in the eyes of women and guys will often do this in front of girls in order to do that very thing.

So we're going to talk about how to deal with that. Okay. So first of all, you got to be cool to the guy man. You got to be cool to him when he first comes in, he's like,

and you're like, oh my God, we got ourselves an AMOG on our hands. AMOG again stands for alpha male of the group. You just got to be chill because the essence of frame control is that you're on your inner balance point and you're unaffected.

And I cannot stress that enough. You have to be unaffected by this dude. So if you're truly unaffected by somebody, right. How would you behave? Would you be addicted to them? Would you try to fight them? Would you be angry at them? No.

You'd actually be cool to them because you're so unbelievably secure in your own definition of your own reality.

You're so on your inner balance point that it doesn't even piss you off when this dude comes in and tries to be aggressive towards you.

And believe me, boys, this happens to me all the damn time, all the damn time. And guys will like put their hands on you. They'll like put their hand on your shoulder.

And like, they're basically trying to out alpha you and trying to intimidate you. So the way that you show them that you can't be intimidated is to be cool and to be completely fucking unaffected.

Now being cool is a delicate thing for me to tell you all because a lot of you guys can misinterpret. And then you kind of become like a kiss ass and you kind of become agreeable.

And your voice goes up at the end and you're like seeking rapport with this dude. No, it's like you're cool in the way that you'd be cool to your little brother.

You're cool in the way that you'd be cool to your employee if you were a boss. You're not condescending. You're just cool to them and you're unaffected and you're calmer than he is.

Okay. So in an interaction, the person who's reacting more, the person who's putting more energy into the interaction is the one who is not controlling the frame.

Why is that? Because they're investing more, which means it's more important to them, which means they're in a state of weakness, which means they're in a state of disadvantage as far as their mentality is concerned.

So when you don't give a shit, you're cool to the person and you're not putting out nearly as much energy as he is.

Okay. So you're talking to a girl, right? Guy comes up. He's like, wait, man, that's my girlfriend. Be like, what's up, brother? What's your name? Okay.

You have a lower energy than he does. And when I say lower energy, that doesn't take away from what I spoke about. I think it was last week on Monday.

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