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Calm Parenting Podcast

How to De-Escalate & Discipline Defiant Behavior #521

Calm Parenting Podcast

Kirk Martin

Education, Society & Culture, Relationships, Social Sciences, Science, Self-improvement, Kids & Family, Parenting

4.81.1K Ratings

🗓️ 24 September 2025

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Your child is yelling and even saying hurtful things, maybe picking on siblings. Your natural response is to become resentful and angry—you bend over backwards for this challenging child and now they treat you like this? How can you de-escalate these situations in the moment so they don’t become full blown family meltdowns? What is the appropriate discipline for defiant behavior. I give you actual scripts and action steps to take in this very personal, practical episode. If you want more practical scripts and action steps, take advantage of the Back-to-School Sale at https://celebratecalm.com/products/. Email [email protected] with any questions.


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So your child is being defiant, mouthy, yelling at you or your spouse, taking things out on siblings, or just not listening.

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