How To Create 'Marriage Rules' as a Couple
How To! with Mike Pesca
Peach Fish Projects
4.3 • 2K Ratings
🗓️ 23 December 2025
⏱️ 43 minutes
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Summary
Cohabitation can be bliss—except when it comes to your partner's incompatible approach to household tasks. Bonnie likes things clean, organized, and prompt. Vince, on the other hand, is a classic procrastinator. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on self-described "human glitterbomb" Jackie Kelley to offer up some practical "marriage rules" designed to improve everyday communication with the love of your life.
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| 0:00.0 | Think about cheese. |
| 0:01.8 | Make your thoughts cheesier. |
| 0:04.2 | Now add 100% chicken breast fillet, Chipoplae sauce and amadea cheese melt. And it's giving the new cheesy chicken stack at McDonald's. Did we mention it's cheesy? Cheese. Available to the 4th of Jan, 2026 from 11 a.m. Present participation may vary. Subjects availability. We went on a road trip at one point, and my husband had the expectation that we would be chit-chatting the whole time. And I'm like, I'm not being touched for the first time in weeks by my children. I'm like, I will be on my phone scrolling. And he was so disappointed because he's like, I thought we were talking. And I'm like, why are you talking to me right now? |
| 0:39.3 | Like, you're bothering me. |
| 0:41.9 | I'm Carvel Wallace, and this is How To, the show where listeners write to us with their |
| 0:46.4 | toughest questions and we bring in the perfect person to give us advice. |
| 0:50.3 | And today, we're tackling one of the most classic conundrums in the book, how to communicate |
| 0:56.1 | with your partner, especially after you've just moved in. I'm sure many of us have been there. |
| 1:02.8 | You're in love, you have hearts in your eyes, you move in with your boo, and then you start |
| 1:08.1 | to notice things, like they load the dishwasher weird, or they leave wet towels on the bathroom floor, things that seem to you like any normal person would never do that. |
| 1:18.8 | Or maybe you're the one who, in an entirely reasonable act, leaves a mug of half-finished tea on the kitchen counter. |
| 1:25.8 | And your partner suddenly is triggered by this. |
| 1:29.3 | So they decide to say something. |
| 1:30.8 | And now you're feeling tight, and they seem tight, |
| 1:33.3 | and the two of you are now in something |
| 1:35.3 | that feels a whole heck of a lot, like a fight. |
| 1:38.8 | But how could this be happening? |
| 1:40.8 | Over a mug? A towel? |
| 1:42.8 | Thought we were in love. But does love conquer a fight over |
| 1:47.5 | the dishes? Well, that's what today's listeners are here to find out. My name is Bonnie, and I am |
| 1:54.9 | recently married to Vince and exploring newlywed and all the issues that come up with that good and bad. |
| 2:04.2 | I am Vince. I'm a software engineer. Also newly married. |
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