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How To! with Mike Pesca

How To Create 'Marriage Rules' as a Couple

How To! with Mike Pesca

Peach Fish Projects

How To, Education

4.32K Ratings

🗓️ 23 December 2025

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Cohabitation can be bliss—except when it comes to your partner's incompatible approach to household tasks. Bonnie likes things clean, organized, and prompt. Vince, on the other hand, is a classic procrastinator. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings on self-described "human glitterbomb" Jackie Kelley to offer up some practical "marriage rules" designed to improve everyday communication with the love of your life.

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0:30.2

We went on a road trip at one point and my husband had the expectation that we would be chit-chatting

0:34.2

the whole time. And I'm like, I'm not being touched for the first time

0:38.6

in weeks by my children. I'm like, I will be on my phone scrolling. And he was so disappointed

0:44.2

because he's like, I thought we were talking. And I'm like, why are you talking to me right now?

0:49.3

Like, you're bothering me. I'm Carveau Wallace Wallace and this is how to.

0:54.4

The show where listeners write to us with their toughest questions and we bring in the

0:58.5

perfect person to give us advice.

1:00.7

And today we're tackling one of the most classic conundrums in the book, how to communicate

1:06.0

with your partner, especially after you've just moved in.

1:10.6

I'm sure many of us have been there. You're in love,

1:13.7

you have hearts in your eyes, you move in with your boo, and then you start to notice things,

1:19.1

like they load the dishwasher weird, or they leave wet towels on the bathroom floor, things that

1:25.2

seem to you like any normal person would never do that.

1:28.7

Or maybe you're the one who, in an entirely reasonable act, leaves a mug of half-finished

1:34.2

tea on the kitchen counter, and your partner suddenly is triggered by this.

1:39.4

So they decide to say something.

1:41.1

And now you're feeling tight, and they seem tight.

1:43.8

And the two of you are now

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