So how do you create direction in your relationship, right? How do you actually implement leadership?

Because direction is leadership in action, right? It's leadership in motion.

This is probably one of the most important things in a relationship. I don't think most of us are

ever taught how to create direction in a relationship. And I think about myself in the past, I didn't

want to create direction. You know, I had like a lot of, of like boy energy, a lot of teenage energy,

where I was unpredictable all the time, right? A woman never really knew what she was going to get

from me. She never really knew what direction the relationship was going. It was very vague. It was

very ambiguous. She didn't know timeline. You know, she didn't know we were going to go on dates or

where we're going to travel or any of those things. And I think it worked into my favor for a little bit,

you know, in the beginning, it was sort of exhilarating, exciting for a woman. And, you know,

I had some success with that sort of wild, unpredictable, lacking

direction nature. But anytime that I wanted to enter into a long-term relationship or have a

serious relationship with a woman in some capacity, that never worked because I wasn't stable.

I didn't feel stable. And I didn't feel stable to that other woman. And so she was

always trying to grapple, take the reins of leading and like, when are we going to move in together?

And when is this going to happen in our relationship? And when are we going on vacation? What is it going to

look like? And I would reject all of those decisions because I didn't want to create direction in the

relationship. And so one of the things that I think is incredibly important if you're wanting

to lead in your relationship is having the capacity to create direction. And what does that look like?

Well, first, it looks like having a vision for your relationship, right? What's the vision that

you have for your relationship? What do you want to do in the context of that relationship? What purpose or

function does that relationship serve, right? Is your relationship just something that you,

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