Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

Creating a safe space and active listening, this is crucial. This is not an option, it's

a foundation, it's soil. it's the only way that the relationship is going to grow and

thrive and it's only way you're going to build trust with your partners.

So if you don't have a safe space or don't have the ability to create one, it's really hard to connect and build trust.

So the way I'm going to go into this is through person-centered theory which is a theoretical orientation I learned

in therapy school and I think it's the best way to explain actually the simplest way to

explain how to create a safe space and then we'll get into

active listening so Carl Rogers created this theory and I'm just going to really

simplify it because the way that self betterment works for me is if it's

you know digestible and simple and I'm assuming for you two it's probably better

than me just you know being a talking head and rambling about theories all day so

There's three things that you need to

Create a safe space so I I'm going to present it as like what a therapist would do for a client and then we could talk about what that looks like for you to create a safe space for your partner.

So three things you need. One is unconditional

positive regard and what that means is that the therapist must be

empathetic and non-judgmental to convey their feelings of understanding, trust, and confidence

that encourages their client to make his or her own decisions and choices, right?

So think about what that looks like for you to give to your

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