How To Communicate Your Need For Connection In A Relationship - Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder - 319

Relationship Coaching School Podcast

Jayson Gaddis

Relationships, Relationshippodcast, Sex, Relationshipadvice, Society & Culture, Jaysongaddispodcast, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.6 • 981 Ratings

🗓️ 1 December 2020

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

In this week’s podcast, my wife Ellen and I continue the discussion on attachment dynamics and give tips for all you ‘pursuers.’

If you are the pursuer in your relationship who always wants to connect with your partner, especially under stress and anxiety, we want to help you learn how to communicate your need for connection better so you don’t drive the other person further away.

Here are two very important questions I ask all couples to think about:

Do we want the same kind of relationship? What do you really want out of the partnership?

Listen in as we answer these questions.

Shownotes:

1:45 Being there for yourself
5:20 Understanding your partner’s position
8:40 Letting your partner know that you care and want to understand them
11:35 Don’t expect others to behave as you want them to
13:20 You and your partner should act as a team
18:25: Action Step

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0:00.0	A lot of times you're just thinking about
0:02.0	when they go away you're thinking about how do I get reconnection
0:04.7	and you're sort of annoyed with them
0:06.2	and we're asking you to see if you can extend beyond yourself
0:09.1	and really try to put yourself in their shoes. Welcome to the Relationship School Podcast. I'm Ellen Bader.
0:35.0	And I'm your host, Jason Gatis. Good to have you here, Ellen Bader.
0:38.0	Thank you. Yeah.
0:40.0	So my wife and I here want to talk about communication and in the last episode we talked about how to communicate your need for space, for you distance or
0:53.2	avoidant types.
0:55.0	And this week we're going to talk about
0:58.0	if you are someone who wants connection
1:01.0	and you want more connection, especially under stress and you get anxious, we want to help you learn how to communicate your need for connection better.
1:10.0	Yeah.
1:11.0	Yeah.
1:12.0	So we're just going to give you, I don't know, seven or eight tips here that could help, okay?
1:17.0	If you're new, this podcast is all about relationships, connection, love, intimacy, and doing that part of your life better.
1:25.0	If you're returning, thank you, thanks for being here,
1:28.0	and thanks for subscribing,
1:29.0	thanks for sharing this with your friends,
1:31.0	thanks for leaving us a review on Apple Podcasts. Really appreciate that.
1:36.1	Remember if you guys want to ask me a live question and come to the next live training
1:40.4	just go to Relationshipschool.com forward slash training.
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