You're listening to On attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience

relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome

insecurity and build healthy thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg, and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I am answering the question of how do I stop caring about other people's

opinions so much as someone who is a recovering people pleaser? So I'm sure that this is a question that a lot of people, myself included, will relate to because I think to varying degrees all of us struggle with that tussle between not wanting to be overly reliant on external validation

or shaping ourselves in the

in the process and acceptance of others

while also not losing ourselves in the process.

And I think it is yet another area

where there's a bit of mess and a bit of nuance.

So I'm hoping that in today's episode I can share some thoughts on that and

share some tips on how to build up a stronger sense of self so that we are more resilient to the feedback of others

while not swinging too far in the other direction of totally insulating ourselves and having

a false bravado around not caring what other people think at all because I think that to the extent people

purport to be completely immune to other people's and opinions and criticism.

I think that's maybe not totally honest

because I think most of us do care

about what other people think to varying degrees.

So that's what I'm going to be chatting through today. Before I dive into that a couple of quick announcements. The first being that healing anxious attachment which many of you would know is my signature course is opening up again for enrollment later

this month. It's an eight week course. Over a thousand people have gone through the program and it will be back. This will be the fifth

time I'll be running it. I know that a lot of you are already on the wait list, but if you are

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