Hi my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

If you have some faults and you feel insecure and inferior because of that, well you should.

Now it shouldn't be so much that you're crippled by it and unable to take action, you shouldn't be beating yourself into the ground

because you're not everything you could be because no one is and if you beat

yourself into the ground then you can't get up and improve but you have to differentiate it's like okay to what

degree am I being hard on myself counterproductively critical hearing the voice of

my two harsh and angry father in my head.

I'm adopting inappropriate stereotypical representations of masculine competence.

How much of my self-criticism is ill-advised? Fair enough. And you want to deal with yourself with a certain amount of care.

Fix your weaknesses. You know, if you're ashamed of being ignorant,

you're showing up at a party because you know you claim to

knowledge that you don't have and someone exposes you. Well you can be angry at

them and you probably will, but they've actually done you a favor. They pointed out an inadequacy is a pathway that you can travel down, right?

A recognized inadequacy is, as soon it's such a gift in some sense if it's accurate because you think well what

should I do what should I do with my life that's a real complicated question oh

here's an inadequacy excellent you have a goal nowify it. Now you still have to think strategically and figure out how to rectify it and do it step by step.

But Carl Rogers, the psychotherapist, pointed out that for therapy to be successful, the person has to want to change.

So they have to have recognized that they have a problem.

If someone is mandated by the court to attend therapy,

it's very difficult for the therapist to convince them that they have a problem.

Once you're convinced you have a problem, it's like away you go.

You know, I know it's still technically difficult it requires discipline and all of that there's no magic

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