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Therapy in a Nutshell

How to Build an Internal Locus of Control

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement

4.8657 Ratings

🗓️ 10 April 2025

⏱️ 21 minutes

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Summary

Get the FREE Locus of Control Exercise here: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/pl/2148648319 Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Locus of control refers to how much you believe you can influence what happens in your life. People who focus on what they can change, have an Internal locus of control. They believe that their efforts make a difference. They acknowledge what they can’t change and they focus their attention and energy on what they CAN change. And having an internal LOC has been linked with improved physical health, happiness, and better relationships. When people have an external locus of control, they believe that external factors like luck, fate, or other people’s actions are responsible for life’s outcomes. They tend to feel more depressed, stressed and anxious. But your locus of control isn’t a trait, this is a choice. This is a thinking pattern that everyone, including you, can adopt. You can learn how to shift from an external to an internal locus of control. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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0:00.0

Welcome back to another episode of the Therapy in a Nutshell podcast. I'm Emma McAdam and I'm a licensed

0:05.7

marriage and family therapist. And this podcast is all about taking the life-changing, but usually

0:11.1

kind of complicated topics of therapy and boiling them down into simple, easy to understand concepts

0:17.0

that you can use in your daily life. If you find today's episode is helpful to you,

0:21.3

please pass it on to someone else who could benefit from it as well. Each podcast episode comes

0:25.3

from a corresponding video you can find on the Therapy in a Nutschele YouTube channel. Also,

0:30.1

these podcasts are educational and don't replace the advice or direction you may be receiving

0:34.2

from a therapist or other health professionals. Now please, enjoy the episode.

0:38.4

If you were struggling with a relationship issue, this skill would come up in therapy.

0:42.1

If you were struggling with depression, this skill would come up in therapy. If you were

0:45.1

struggling with anxiety, boundary, school, work, politics, existential dread, this skill would

0:50.1

probably come up in therapy because it's just such an important skill.

0:54.5

It is super helpful and it's the difference between people who solve problems and are

0:59.4

successful and those who aren't. Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try,

1:03.6

it doesn't matter because life is out to get you? As a therapist I hear things like

1:08.2

what's the point it never never works out. Or other people

1:11.2

have great lives, but that's not in the cards for me. On the other hand, it's not uncommon

1:15.3

for people to believe that they're just too stupid, defective, lazy, or too depressed,

1:19.4

or anxious, or ADHD to be able to succeed. If they have conflict in a relationship, it must

1:25.1

be because I'm unlovable. If you're struggling at work,

1:28.3

it must be because I'm not as smart as Paul. I see people go back and forth on what I'm calling

1:34.3

the helplessness wobble, alternating between feeling powerless in a broken world and just feeling

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