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Lenny's Podcast: Product | Growth | Career

How to build a team that can “take a punch”: A playbook for building resilient, high-performing teams | Hilary Gridley (Head of Core Product, Whoop)

Lenny's Podcast: Product | Growth | Career

Lenny Rachitsky

Technology, Business, Entrepreneurship

51.5K Ratings

🗓️ 15 June 2025

⏱️ 115 minutes

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Summary

Hilary Gridley is the Head of Core Product at WHOOP and a passionate thought leader in leveraging AI to elevate product teams and management practices. With extensive experience tackling challenging problems in regulated industries and high-stakes environments, Hilary emphasizes the importance of building resilience and adaptability within teams. Previously, she was a senior director of product at Big Health and a senior product marketing manager at Dropbox.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to teach your team to be able to “take a punch”

• Specific tactics to counter negative perceptions and reframe setbacks productively

• Powerful behavioral strategies to form positive habits

• Practical approaches for creating space in your workday to encourage creativity and deep thinking

• The underestimated potential of AI in accelerating your personal and professional growth

• Why you’re not the protagonist at your company (and why that’s liberating)

• How WHOOP uses reward loops to drive real behavior change

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Where to find Hilary Gridley:

• X: https://x.com/yourgirlhils

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hilarygridley/

• Newsletter: https://hils.substack.com/

• Maven course: https://maven.com/hilary-gridley/ai-powered-people-management

Where to find Lenny:

• Newsletter: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com

• X: https://twitter.com/lennysan

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lennyrachitsky/

In this episode, we cover:

(00:00) Hilary’s background

(04:31) Teaching teams to handle criticism and setbacks

(17:57) Behavioral activation and mental health in the workplace

(22:59) The importance of putting yourself out there

(27:51) Transparency and communication in leadership

(38:10) How to respectfully disagree with your manager

(41:49) How to use “magic questions” to decode how people think

(49:54) Why you’re not the protagonist at your company

(52:48) Aligning with the CEO's vision

(01:01:02) Building effective habits

(01:11:14) Promoting team well-being

(01:14:28) Creating space for creativity

(01:20:45) AI’s role in accelerating learning

(01:30:35) Pivotal career moments

(01:37:21) Lessons from failure

(01:39:49) Exciting new features of WHOOP 5.0

(01:44:19) Lightning round and final thoughts

Referenced:

• How to become a supermanager with AI: https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-to-become-a-supermanager-with

• How custom GPTs can make you a better manager | Hilary Gridley (Head of Core Product at Whoop): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/how-custom-gpts-can-make-you-a-better-manager

• WHOOP: https://www.whoop.com/

• Big Health: https://www.bighealth.com/

• What is behavioral activation?: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/behavioral-activation

• Will Ahmed on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/willahmed/

• Joe Gebbia on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jgebbia/

• Zach Abrams on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zacharyabrams/

• Coinbase: https://www.coinbase.com/

• Bridge: https://www.bridge.xyz/

• Stripe: https://stripe.com/

• The paths to power: How to grow your influence and advance your career | Jeffrey Pfeffer (author of 7 Rules of Power, professor at Stanford GSB): https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/the-paths-to-power-jeffrey-pfeffer

• Paths to Power course: https://jeffreypfeffer.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/Pfeffer-OB377-Course-Outline-2018.pdf

• VO₂ max: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/VO2_max

• Peter Attia on X: https://x.com/PeterAttiaMD

• Hilary Gridley’s 30 days of GPT: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1zJ4rbi9YcQuGqGxc6-AQD0-44oT9l4Eyono0AdpgJbA/edit?gid=0#gid=0

• The Handle Bar in Boston: https://www.thehandlebarstudios.com/ourstudios/charlestown

• From chalkboards to chatbots: Transforming learning in Nigeria, one prompt at a time: https://blogs.worldbank.org/en/education/From-chalkboards-to-chatbots-Transforming-learning-in-Nigeria

• Product Management Logic Coach GPT: https://chatgpt.com/g/g-673290301700819084afa36bdbcdfa3b-product-management-logic-coach

• Dropbox: https://www.dropbox.com/

• WHOOP Advanced Labs: https://www.whoop.com/us/en/waitlist/?srsltid=AfmBOor2pP5qC3n7I23Z0ZIrYE99CjAKT9xSHQxbuyxmz_wFUBGH3e-n

• Negative capability: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negative_capability

• John Keats: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Keats

The Rehearsal: https://www.hbo.com/the-rehearsal

• Zwift: https://www.zwift.com/

• Beavis and Butthead Do ‘Creep’: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zv_gSmH0Ieg

• “Sea Grapes” by Derek Walcott: https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/57111/sea-grapes

• Free month of WHOOP: https://join.whoop.com/us/en/hilary/

Recommended books:

7 Rules of Power: https://jeffreypfeffer.com/books/7-rules-of-power/

Outlive: The Science and Art of Longevity: https://www.amazon.com/Outlive-Longevity-Peter-Attia-MD/dp/0593236599

East of Eden: https://www.amazon.com/East-Eden-John-Steinbeck-Centennial/dp/0142004235

The Sun Also Rises: https://www.amazon.com/Sun-Also-Rises-Hemingway-Library/dp/1501121960/

Anna Karenina: https://www.amazon.com/Anna-Karenina-Leo-Tolstoy/dp/0143035002

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Lenny may be an investor in the companies discussed.



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Transcript

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0:00.0

Product leadership is the type of role where if you are not in control of the voices in your head,

0:05.9

they will eat you alive.

0:07.2

You spent a lot of time thinking about how to help your team learn to take a punch.

0:10.7

If they come to me and they're upset, I try to focus them less around how you litigate another person's impression of you.

0:16.8

And more on what is the action that you can take?

0:19.0

To counterprogram the narrative that you are

0:21.6

afraid that this other person has of you. What are you going to do next to demonstrate that you are

0:26.4

the person that you know yourself to be? You have specific tactics that you teach your team to deal

0:31.0

with hardship. I would really love it if more people were like, screw it. I'm going to do something

0:34.5

that's probably going to fail. It's important and it's worth doing and I'm going to do it well.

0:40.8

Is there something you've learned about when your leader tells you to do something you disagree with?

0:45.5

People think that the game is all about influencing the CEO, influencing the people around them.

0:47.4

You come up thinking like you're the protagonist.

0:50.6

But in the story of work, you are probably not the protagonist.

0:51.7

You're not special.

0:55.0

Today, my guest Hilary Gridley. Hillary is head of core product at Woop.

0:57.0

Previously, she was a senior director of product at Big Health and a senior product marketing manager at Dropbox.

1:03.0

Even more importantly, she wrote what is now the sixth most popular post of all time in my newsletter,

1:08.0

How to Become a Super Manager with AI. She's also the first ever crossover guest between this podcast and her sister podcast,

1:15.6

How I AI with Claire Vow. And not just that, her episode with Claire is on track to be the most popular episode of the podcast.

1:21.6

So all that to say, Hillary is incredible and I'm so excited to continue learning from her.

1:26.6

This conversation is packed with advice that will make you a better product leader, builder,

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