How to Build a Family Culture That Brings You Closer and Makes You Stronger with Steven Shapiro and Nancy Shapiro Rapport
The One You Feed
Eric Zimmer
4.6 • 2.5K Ratings
🗓️ 15 August 2025
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, Steven Shapiro and Nancy Shapiro discuss how to build a family culture that brings you closer and makes you stronger. They are a brother and sister duo, educators and creators of the “Our Family Culture” system. Steven and Nancy discuss the importance of intentionally shaping family culture to support children’s emotional well-being and resilience and they share practical strategies for identifying core values, developing shared language, and practicing consistent, meaningful actions within families. They highlight how conscious culture-building can strengthen family bonds, foster healthy development, and create a positive legacy across generations.
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Key Takeaways:
- The concept of “family culture” and its impact on children’s emotional and mental well-being.
- The importance of intentionality in shaping family culture versus allowing it to develop by default.
- The role of core values in guiding family dynamics and behaviors.
- The significance of creating a supportive emotional environment for children.
- The challenges parents face in raising children, including mental health concerns and societal pressures.
- The idea of generational legacy and how parenting styles are often replicated or opposed by children.
- Practical strategies for families to engage in culture-building, including small, manageable actions.
- The dynamic nature of family culture and the importance of collaboration among family members.
- Tools and resources to facilitate meaningful conversations about values within families.
f you enjoyed this conversation with Steven and Nancy, check out these other episodes:
How to Manage Family Relationships with Nedra Glover Tawwab
How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson
Purposeful Living: Strategies to Align Your Values and Actions with Victor Strecher
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| 0:00.0 | I think one of the challenges for parents and for people raising families is, in many cases, it's the first time that they've been the architect of their own culture. |
| 0:08.3 | Most of the time we're culture passengers. |
| 0:18.2 | Welcome to the one you feed. |
| 0:20.6 | Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of the thoughts we have. Quotes like, garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true. And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity, self-pity, jealousy, or fear. We see what we don't have |
| 0:40.9 | instead of what we do. We think things that hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just |
| 0:46.8 | about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life |
| 0:52.9 | worth living. This podcast is about how other people |
| 0:56.2 | keep themselves moving in the right direction, how they feed their good wolf. After this conversation, |
| 1:04.6 | I couldn't stop thinking about my son. He's 27 now, and like every parent, I can think of things I did well and things I wish I'd done differently. |
| 1:14.5 | Talking with Stephen and Nancy Shapiro reminded me of one core truth. |
| 1:19.3 | You don't raise kids by having the right answers. |
| 1:22.6 | You raise them by creating the right environment, what they call family culture, |
| 1:27.3 | not just ideas, but actions, |
| 1:30.6 | shared language, small, consistent practices that define who we are. And while this is aimed at families, |
| 1:37.4 | I think what they've created is really about how we create culture in all the groups we're part of, |
| 1:43.3 | because culture is always there operating |
| 1:46.1 | behind the scenes, and we always have a chance to improve it. I'm Eric Zimmer, and this is the one |
| 1:52.9 | you feed. Hi, Stephen, hi, Nancy. Welcome to the show. Thanks, Eric. Great to be here. For those of you |
| 1:58.4 | who are listening, you are not seeing this, but the three of us are sitting |
| 2:01.5 | in a room together in Columbus, Ohio. |
| 2:04.3 | And Stephen and Nancy are people that I've become friends with over the last year, two years |
| 2:09.5 | probably. |
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