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Welcome to the show.

Got a great show plan for you.

We're going to be talking today about how to break up with someone.

What?

You got to talk about how to break up with someone?

Yes.

Ah, yes, we do.

Still live in a culture that thrives in ghosting.

Just disappearing or breadcrumbing, slowly backing away.

Makes the other person feel confused, chaotic.

They'll even use words like, quote

unquote, crazy. I feel crazy. It's very destabilizing. You know, relationality and not understanding

if we can trust, let go, find safety. It's very difficult. So how to break up with someone

becomes a topic that I, it comes up even in the DMs. People say, how do I end this relationship

with someone? And usually what they're really asking is, how do I do it without being anxious?

And often, when we think we're doing it to help someone else, what we're doing is, again,

trying to manage your own anxiety.

When we mislead or lie or just disappear, it's really about our own anxiety maintenance.

So these are skills that we don't

learn and we just kind of pick them up along the way. First thing I always talk about, and this is

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