How To!: Be Yourself in an Interracial Relationship
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🗓️ 27 September 2022
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Summary
When Dana and Luke first started dating at the office they kept their relationship a secret. Most of their colleagues didn't know they were a couple until they got engaged. They didn't want any undue pressure or outside judgment. That's because Dana is a proud Black, Ghanaian woman from central Florida and Luke is a white man from Kansas. Dana's wondering how she can preserve her identity while they absorb each others' family traditions. On this episode of How To!, guest host Hélène Biandudi Hofer brings on Karyn Langhorne Folan, author of Don't Bring Home a White Boy: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out. All three discuss the struggles and joys in their respective interracial marriages.
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| 0:29.0 | I got, look, somewhat begrudgingly to go to a Metinee Ballet that was over in Fort Worth nearby. |
| 0:38.0 | Before the show started, we noticed that there was a white couple, older white couple, |
| 0:42.0 | like, I don't know, maybe 60s, even 70s. |
| 0:45.0 | And I know when I'm being looked at and kind of stared at an eyeball, |
| 0:50.0 | and I realized I was the only black person in that audience. |
| 0:54.0 | So we watched the show, the shows over, we're getting up to leave. |
| 0:58.0 | That couple comes down from the balcony and he's whispering to his wife something as they're looking at us. |
| 1:05.0 | And my very protective husband, he is, I can feel him as he's holding my hand. |
| 1:11.0 | He's ready to fight. |
| 1:12.0 | And I'm sort of like holding back. I'm, you know, whispering to him. I'm like, you know, |
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