I am Mission Laciani, founder of Mind Valley, the School for Human Transformation.

You're listening to the Mind Valley Podcast where we'll be bringing you the greatest teachers and

thought leaders on the planet to discuss the world's most powerful ideas and personal growth for mind, body, spirit and work.

The problem with most people is that their problems aren't big enough.

Of course, that's never how it feels over the cause of an average day.

We're all bogged down with a thousand tiny choices, a thousand tasks that we need to attend to, a thousand different issues that

demand our attention. Who would willingly choose to add greater problems into that next year?

The answer should actually be all of us.

The problem with all of these tiny problems

is that for the most part,

they are oriented towards resolving a singular issue on need for

self-esteem.

You go on a date with someone who doesn't text you back the next day and you can't stop

wondering what you did wrong.

You get a negative performance review and a job you're not even passionate about

and you can't stop feeling inadequate.

You see your peers, your siblings, your colleagues, all progressing at a faster pace than you seem to be progressing.

And you start feeling afraid of getting left in the dust.

These are all tiny flows individually, but they eat away at your confidence over time and the reason they have

such a big effect is because you are fuck-withable.

Let me break that term down for you. People who are fuck-wickable are people who do not feel whole.

People who place their self-worth in the hands of others and only feel good enough when they are accepted, admired, or praised.

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