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🗓️ 13 May 2025
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0:00.0 | Have you ever felt the difference between being truly heard and just being tolerated? |
0:09.0 | Like someone's nodding while mentally replying to a Slack message, |
0:14.0 | versus that rare moment when a person locks eyes with you, puts their phone down, |
0:19.0 | and you can feel them catching, not just your words, |
0:22.5 | but the meaning underneath them. I was at a coffee shop this week, editing podcast notes, |
0:28.5 | and I overheard this conversation that hit me square in the gut. This woman was talking to |
0:35.7 | her friend about being passed over for a promotion that she'd been |
0:38.5 | working toward for years. And you could hear how much she cared, how much this riled her up, how much |
0:44.8 | hope she'd attached to that one step forward. But her friend barely looked up, just tossed out |
0:53.1 | those lazy, well-meaning phrases like, |
0:55.9 | I don't just apply somewhere else, or maybe ask for more responsibility. |
1:01.1 | No real pause, no follow-up, no curiosity. |
1:06.1 | And I watched this shift happen. |
1:08.8 | I'm fascinated with human behavior, so I love eavesdropping. But this woman's |
1:14.4 | posture just folded in on itself. Her voice got quieter. Her eyes dropped to the table. |
1:21.9 | And then she picked up her phone too and just scrolled, checked out. Like she'd realized that she had already been alone in that |
1:30.2 | moment. Might as well do something about it. The conversation drifted to something shallow, |
1:36.4 | and the moment to connect was gone. And the worst part is, I've been both of them. The one craving to be heard, and the one too uncomfortable or too distracted or too fix-it-minded to actually listen. |
1:53.0 | We all think we're good at listening, but let's be real. We are not. |
1:57.7 | Studies show that while 95% of people rate themselves as above average listeners, most |
2:03.7 | of us remember only about 25% of what we hear. And that number tanks even further when |
2:09.2 | we're stressed, multitasking, or ready to argue. And it makes sense. Our brains process words |
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