Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Do you want to be the best listener and conversationalist ever?

I'm letting you into a secret that I learned from Charles Dweig and his book Super Communicator,

which allowed me to understand and then share with you today how every conversation is in fact

three things. No matter the situation, no matter the topic, no matter who you're discussing it

with, there are three layers of conversation that are going on in any single topic.

So, for example, just say you have a friend who is talking about problems in her marriage.

There are three levels to this. There's first of all the problems themselves. What is it? What actually

is going on? The second is the

emotion attached to the problem. So how do you feel? Do you feel sad? Do you feel stressed? Do you feel

angry? Do you feel disappointed? And number three, and this is a bigger part of the conversation

that most people never realize, it's the social aspect, how this affects your

standing. So if there's someone having problems in their marriage, there's the problems themselves.

What is it? Is someone disloyal? Is someone chronically late? Is someone not respectful? There's how we

feel about it, all of the emotions that that brings up.

And then there's the judgment or perceived judgment from others.

What will our parents think?

What will the church think?

What will our community think?

What will our friend group think about this?

So if you want to be a great listener and someone who really engages at a soul level,

when someone brings up a topic with you, you can ask, do you want to talk about the problems

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