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impact 90 challenge right guys now back to the episode as you get older you are less plastic so it actually does become harder to learn new things you begin to find the things that work for you and so you think oh well I know how to do this and then you encounter that moment where it stops working and so now it's like oh wait a second.

So Tom we're going to bring it to the light later but I'll start at the deep dark ends what are the top five behaviors and mental traps people do to live a really miserable life.

What do people do so ego is going to be number one so the whole idea if you want to live the good life is to recognize that you are a deeply flawed individual that is holding

yourself back that your life is a reflection entirely of your choices and not your circumstances and if you're not happy with that that means you're doing something wrong so I'll define right and wrong as it's right when it moves you towards your goal and it's wrong when it moves you away so if you not where you want to be you are by definition doing something wrong but most people can't work through the loop that I call the physics of progress because

there are ego stops them in a critical part so the physics of progress go like this you have a guess as to how you're going to get to your goal so first of all it assumes you know where your goal is but for now let's assume that you do know your goal so you've got a guess this is what I would need to do in order to get to my goal you're going to do that thing and it's going to fail now we all have to struggle with the oh I tried the thing and it failed the problem is most people put up their ego defenses find a way to believe that it's going to be a good thing to do.

Find a way to believe that it was somebody else's fault it was the economy it was where I was born it was that my parents didn't have money it's that the system is rigged whatever because those are probably valid reasons why it's going to be harder for that person than the next person they stop but let's go back to my definition of right and wrong right is that which moves you towards your goals wrong is that which moves you away so people then are blind to the fact that they're saying that their real goal is to get what you're doing.

So the goal is to get where they're going make a million dollars have a successful business be a teacher whatever but the reality is their real goal is to feel good about themselves.

Most people never have the self awareness to avoid that conflict and then even if they have the self awareness that they're in a conflict they don't realize that they could shift their self esteem around instead of being right so what I try to do is

what I tried was right and the only reason it didn't work is because the world is stacked against me might actually be true but how are you going to move forward because there is some better thing that's going to move you forward most people are never going to see that because they stop it making it somebody else's fault.

The next thing you have to do is you have to be optimistic you have to believe what I call the only belief that matters that if I failed at something it's because I'm not good enough yet but I can get good and so many people believe because it really feels this way you believe that your talent and intelligence are fixed traits and the reason you believe that is it gets harder as you get older to get those huge gains that you get like when you're a little kid and you can't walk it's like this whole binary zero to one moment of like whoa I can't do that.

I couldn't and now I can this is incredible and then you get to first grade and it's like candy math now I can't do math while it's pretty cool candy multiplication tables now I can you start to get to algebra and say oh god this is not as easy as I hoped it would be you start having failures you get rejected by girls like you start getting all these things that stack up where the path to stand up practice walking it doesn't work as well you're also as you get older you are less plastic so it actually does become harder to learn new things.

Also you begin to find the things that work for you and so you think oh well I know how to do this I've done it really well and then you encounter that moment where it stops working and so now it's like oh wait a second I it was working so I had my big zero to one moment then it stopped working and people confuse that with hitting the edge of their abilities not realizing you've only hit the edge of your current skill set so I remind myself in business all the time I'm not going to do that.

I'm not going to go up and business all the time my current skill set has already taken me as far as it's going to take me and so if I want to go farther I have to get better but if you don't believe that you can get better then you want to put the energy

in effort into getting better but because it becomes incrementally more difficult to get better you begin to confuse it with I've reached the edge of my capabilities then if your ego is built around I'm right not that I can identify the right answer I am right so I've done all the things I hit the edge of my

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