How To Be Less Reactive or Impulsive - The System that Actually Works
Therapy in a Nutshell
Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam
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🗓️ 20 March 2026
⏱️ 24 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | Hello, all you impulsive, reactive people. I'm glad you're here. Have you seen this video? Just get up. What are you doing? Come on. You gotta get up. Just stand up. Come on. Get up. What? I'm trying to get up. I don't, I'm literally trying to get up. I don't know what to tell you. The guy on the floor is learning how to fight. the coach keeps yelling, just get up, get up. |
| 0:22.1 | But the guy on the ground is literally being pummeled. |
| 0:25.6 | I am literally trying to get up, he says. |
| 0:28.6 | He's trying harder, but nothing's changing. |
| 0:31.6 | What's going on? |
| 0:32.6 | First, the coach stinks. |
| 0:34.6 | And second, you can't just tell people to try harder to do a skill that they don't have yet. |
| 0:41.1 | Now, most people think that change happens here. |
| 0:45.1 | You've probably tried over and over to force yourself to stop. |
| 0:49.1 | But even when it's super important to you, you keep falling back on impulsively spending, |
| 0:54.2 | drugging, yelling, storming off, quitting, fighting, shutting down, mouthing off. |
| 0:58.9 | And if you're here, all that reactivity is probably interfering with you, being the person |
| 1:03.6 | that you want to be. |
| 1:04.8 | Being more reactive or impulsive can be due to trauma loading, depression, anxiety, brain differences like ADHD, or just a lack of skills and practice. |
| 1:15.2 | But regardless of what causes it, you can't just try harder or use willpower to stop. |
| 1:22.0 | This is most likely a reflexive nervous system response and you need to train a new reflex to replace it. |
| 1:28.3 | It's not that it's impossible to change, it's that lasting sustainable change is different than most people assume. |
| 1:35.3 | The reality is that real change doesn't happen here if we're looking for sustainable change. |
| 1:41.3 | It really happens here, here, and here in prevention. Okay? You really can |
| 1:49.3 | learn to train yourself to respond differently to these situations so that you can be less |
| 1:54.1 | impulsive, less reactive, and gain control of your life. So in this video, you're going to learn |
| 1:59.1 | four steps to doing that. |
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