How To Be Less Judgy
How To! with Mike Pesca
Peach Fish Projects
4.3 • 2K Ratings
🗓️ 15 October 2024
⏱️ 37 minutes
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Summary
Erica judges other people by default. Whether they are acquaintances, co-workers, or new arrivals in a club, her first impression is often negative. "I would like to learn how to quash that part of myself," she says, because those judgments might be ruling out potential friendships. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Dr. Terri Apter, psychologist and author of Passing Judgment: The Power of Praise & Blame in Everyday Life. Terri explains that Erica's initial reactions are more useful than she thinks—and can help her better understand herself.
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| 0:32.4 | Hi, I'm calling from San Francisco. I wanted to learn how to be less judgmental. |
| 0:42.3 | I realized this has likely gotten in the way of me forming deeper and better relationships, |
| 0:49.3 | and I would like to learn how to quiet that part of myself. Thanks. |
| 0:59.6 | Welcome to how to, the show where listeners call us with our toughest questions, |
| 1:04.0 | and we find the perfect person to give them guidance. I'm Courtney Martin. |
| 1:10.1 | From a young age, we're taught that being judgmental is an |
| 1:14.1 | undesirable trait, a flaw. It's associated with being mean. If you're on the receiving end |
| 1:20.6 | of a cutting remark or a sneering glance, it can be devastating, right? I mean, there's a reason |
| 1:25.4 | why pop culture keeps casting mean girls as villains. |
| 1:29.3 | Oh my god, she's so annoying. |
| 1:32.3 | Who is? |
| 1:33.3 | Who's this? |
| 1:35.3 | Gretchen? |
| 1:36.3 | Right. |
| 1:37.3 | Hold on. |
| 1:38.3 | Oh my god, she's so annoying. |
| 1:41.3 | I know. Just got rid of her. |
| 1:43.3 | With those depictions, it is no wonder we try to distance ourselves from judgment, |
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