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Therapy in a Nutshell

How to Be Happy Part 2: Why American Self-Help Backfires

Therapy in a Nutshell

Therapy in a Nutshell -Emma McAdam

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness:mental Health, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.8658 Ratings

🗓️ 11 October 2022

⏱️ 10 minutes

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Download the free Habit Builder here: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.co... Want some help to be happier? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanuts... Researchers studied the question “Does trying to be happy actually work? If you decided to consciously work on being happier, would you actually be happier down the road? They asked this question in 4 different countries. The results were fascinating. They found that if you tried to be happier in the United States, you actually felt worse, in Germany it had a mixed effect. But in Russia, Taiwan, and Japan, trying to be happier actually worked. So why would that be? The researchers believe it’s due to the cultural difference between the east and the west. https://doi.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10... You really can learn to be happier, you can learn the skills to feel happy again, but you have to be willing to look past the overly simplistic self-help that promotes individualism, selfishness and isolation. If you want to learn the habits of happy people, perhaps look to eastern culture where the group is more important than the whole. When you reach out, connect, and try to do good in the world, you really can learn how to be happy. Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.co... Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanut... Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapynutshell.com  Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/bes...  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/c... If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC ---- Music licensed from www.Bensound.com or Artlist.io Images from Freepik.com (premium license), Pixabay, or Wikimedia commons

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0:00.0

Welcome to the Therapy in a Nutshell podcast. I'm Emma McAdam, a licensed marriage and family therapist,

0:05.8

and I believe therapeutic education can change lives and should be easily accessible to all.

0:11.9

These podcast episodes are filled with a research-backed therapeutic education that you can start applying to your life today.

0:18.6

If you like these episodes and you want to go into more depth on specific topics like

0:23.6

how to process tough emotions, how to change your brain and build better relationships,

0:28.6

or how to help support someone you know with a mental illness,

0:32.6

then check out my classes at Therapy in a nutshell.com.

0:36.6

Each podcast episode here comes from a corresponding video

0:40.2

you can find on the Therapy in a Nutshell YouTube channel. Also, these podcasts are educational

0:45.3

and don't replace the advice or direction you may be receiving from a therapist or other health

0:51.3

professionals. Okay, let's jump into this week's skill. Today we're going to be

0:56.5

talking about how to be happier. So researchers studied the question, does trying to be happy

1:03.0

actually work? And if you decide to consciously work on being happier, would you actually be

1:09.5

happier down the road? So they asked this question in four different countries.

1:13.6

And the results were really fascinating.

1:14.6

They found that if you tried to be happier in the United States, you actually felt worse.

1:20.6

In Germany, it had a mixed effect, but in Russia, Taiwan, Japan, trying to be happier actually worked.

1:26.6

So why would that be? Now the researchers

1:28.7

believe it's due to the cultural difference between the East and the West. So in the West,

1:33.9

in America, for example, we're very individualistic. We say, oh, be a rebel. You do you. We proclaim

1:40.4

freedom, both from tyranny, but also from dependence on and connection to other people.

1:45.0

We're lonelier than we've ever been. People have less friends than ever.

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