18 months ago, I remember sitting down and wanting to have a vision for my friendships.

And it hit me because I knew that I would be turning 40 soon.

And there was something about turning 40 that I said, I need to get very, very serious about what I want in different relationships, especially my friendships.

So I had an entire list, what I like to call my dream friendship list.

I wrote down everything, everything that I could think of that I wanted.

And for some people, they may say, that's too much.

But if we can be honest, a lot of us have lists.

I know I did before I got married.

And I was very clear about what I wanted in a husband.

Why not have the same thing as a friendship?

And that's what made me realize being feminine and dangerously confident is truly about one thing.

Standards.

It's about what you choose to allow and also what you choose to become.

That's the part that I think not too many people focus on.

Because everything that I put on my dream list for a friend, I needed to make sure I also

had those things too, that I was the type of friend that could also be on someone's dream list. So when you think about

being feminine, it's not about being weak. It's not about being fragile to the point that you feel

like you will break if anything happens. It's truly about having standards that you set for yourself,

that you know this is who I want to be, and this is who I want to become. Before we go deeper in this, I really have to explain this concept of femininity.

I have defined femininity for so long as tender power, being soft and strong.

When you think of having gentle strength,

that is what femininity is.

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