Hey, this is Leo, for actualized.org.

And in this episode, I'm going to talk about how to be a man,

part two, the advanced version. I've addressed this topic in the past of how to be a man. Several years ago I released an

episode that was quite popular and there what I basically told you was how to embody your masculinity. Talked about how masculinity works, how it

contrasts with femininity, and then what practical steps you can take to go up

your masculinity. And that might involve going

having sex with girls getting into relationships and other things like that

that can be some useful advice and it still applies to many guys but I want to give you a deeper, more advanced understanding of what it means to really be a man,

especially if you've already experimented with the advice I gave you in the previous episode.

And the insight that I'm going to give you here is going to be very simple, but it's also going to be very counterintuitive.

Here's the whole insight. It could be said in like one sentence.

Very, very simple. The key insight is if you want to be more of a man, be more of a woman.

If you want to be more of a man, be more of a woman. What? Leo, what? What does that mean? How is that going to make me more of a man?

No, Leah, what I want is I want to be Alpha.

Teach me how to be Alpha, so that I can get all the girls and I could be super macho and I could

be super confident and stoic and nothing can touch me.

I want to be untouchable.

That untouchable Arnold Schwarzenegger character, make me like that.

But you see, that's your problem right there. That's actually why you're struggling to be an authentic man is because that

stereotype is a caricature of what it means to be a man. That is not what it means to be a man. And for many

men that's completely inauthentic and actually counterintuitively what it does

when you try to do that when you have this

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