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If I asked you about some of the most exhausting moments in parenting a teenager, you'd be thinking perhaps of maybe getting them to put the cell phone down or participate in some household activities and chores or come to church with us.

I mean these are things that moms and dads fight with their teens about.

I'm John Fuller along with Danny Huerta, who leads our parenting and youth department here at Focus. And Danny, you have met so many teens and their parents. Why are these years so difficult? Well parenting teens can be interesting and in my

counseling practice in my own home, what you get to see are kids that physically can be adults, but mentally and emotionally are not there yet and spiritually

They're in a growth process yet in their perception they're thinking have I'm invincible I want to take risks because that's a natural normal thing in their brain.

I can just I can conquer this. I know this. The new knowledge is coming their way in

in large amounts and so they think they've got it and what the other part that's

interesting here is that kids in their 10 years shift towards more immaturity than they had before in the early 10 years and

their melatonin doesn't kick in till around midnight or one in the morning so

they're not tired. I've noticed that. So they're not tired.

I've noticed that, yes.

They're not tired.

So that design, I have to ask God about that one

as to why that is, but it must serve a very important purpose.

And so when we tell our kids,

hey, you need to go to bed around nine or ten,

they're going, what?

I still have a lot of energy.

You're so unreasonable, Dad.

I just to have more in there, you know.

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