How to Ask Your Body What It Actually Needs

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 21 July 2026

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, somatic practitioner Dolly Josette (aka The Pleasure Muse) is teaching us something that changed my life… how to actually listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us. We walk through a body anchor meditation to help you find your most grounded position, then move into what Dolly calls the vulva hug and cock cradle, a practice that has nothing to do with arousal and everything to do with presence, safety, and building trust with your own body. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, gone numb during sex, or struggled to know what you actually want, this episode is your foundation. Somatic work like this is how we learn to stop performing and start truly feeling, and it's a practice you can bring into your life daily, not just in the bedroom! ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to Sex with Emily 2:23 Meet Dolly Josette & What Is Somatic Work? 4:07 Embodiment & Sexual Connection 10:56 The Holy Trinity: Body, Mind & Soul 13:07 Body Anchor Meditation 26:22 The Vulva Hug & Cradle Practices 35:08 How This Practice Changes Intimacy 41:32 Overcoming Shame Around Your Body 45:13 How Somatic Work Changes Relationships 49:45 The Power of the Pause 51:17 Why Daily Embodiment Matter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I am so excited to finally share this with you. I am going on tour. It is the best sex ever tour.
0:07.3	And I hope you'll join me. And the show is all about you, the audience. Every night, I'm going to
0:13.6	be answering your questions, win prizes, and leave with secrets to have the best sex ever. Every
0:20.0	night is different because the show is all about you.
0:23.5	So here's the dates.
0:24.4	Then heading to Philadelphia on August 5th, Nashville on September 29th, and Austin on October
0:30.4	7th.
0:31.2	More cities to come.
0:33.3	Come with your partner, your friends fly solo.
0:36.0	You'll leave with practical tools.
0:38.1	Plenty of laughs. Maybe some surprises. Well, definitely some surprises. Visit sex withemly.com
0:43.8	slash events for tickets and tour information. I will see you there. Can't wait to meet you.
0:49.3	We think we want sex, but we just want tuck. We want that. Those feel good hormones that tell us
0:54.0	that that's pleasurable and we want more. We want that, those feel-good hormones that tell us that that's
0:54.4	pleasurable and we want more. Why would my body be responding to somebody else if I haven't even
1:01.0	connected to my body today? If I haven't even connected. So many times partners are touching
1:06.6	our genitals with a goal in mind. They're touching our genitals to please us. They're touching
1:11.9	our genitals because they want something from us. I can't fake it anymore. I can't be
1:16.2	performing because it's like a total override of what is now in my system because it is about
1:22.9	that. Making your body feel safe.
1:28.3	Hey everyone, welcome to Sex with Emily.
1:31.3	I'm Dr. Emily and my mission is to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate conversation
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