How to Actually Use Your Enneagram Type (Instead of Just Knowing It) with Stephanie Barron Hall • 381

Mind Love • Modern Mindfulness to Think, Feel, and Live Well

Melissa Monte | Mindset Mentor

Mental Health, Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness

4.9 • 897 Ratings

🗓️ 31 December 2024

⏱️ 64 minutes

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We will learn: · Why your childhood experiences might be secretly driving your adult decisions (and how to change that) · The surprising reason why you and someone else can experience the exact same event completely differently · How understanding your core motivations can free you from repeating the same patterns over and over Imagine you're trying to untangle a complex knot. You could just pull at random strings, hoping to make progress. Or you could study the pattern of the knot first, understanding exactly how it's twisted and turned, making the untangling process much more intentional and effective. That's what these frameworks can do when we use them wisely. Instead of using them to build our identity, we can use them to understand our attachments, our default patterns, and the stories we've been telling ourselves. They become mirrors showing us where we might be stuck, where we tend to grasp too tightly, and where we might need to pay extra attention in our personal growth work. This revelation hit me particularly hard when I started diving deep into the Enneagram system. Unlike other personality frameworks I'd encountered, this one seemed less interested in putting me in a box and more focused on showing me the box I'd already put myself in – and more importantly, how to think outside of it. Today our guest is Stephanie Hayes, an Enneagram expert who brings a fresh perspective to this ancient system of understanding human behavior. She's written "Enneagram in Real Life" and specializes in helping people use the Enneagram as a practical tool for growth rather than just another label to collect. Links from the episode: Show Notes: mindlove.com/381 Join the wait list for Living Mind Love Become a Mind Love Member for high-value Masterclasses, Growth Workbooks, Monthly Meditations, and Uninterrupted Listening FREE 5-Days to Purpose Email Course Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes to wake up inspired Support Mind Love Sponsors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Have you ever noticed how quickly we click on those,
0:05.0	what type of bread are you, quizzes on Facebook?
0:09.0	Or dive into yet another personality assessment?
0:13.0	There's just something irresistible about seeing ourselves reflected back to us,
0:18.0	even if it's through the lens of breakfast pastries. I'll be the first to admit, I'm a recovering personality test junkie.
0:25.6	From Myers-Briggs to human design, I've done them all.
0:29.6	And for years, I approached these tools like collecting merit badges,
0:33.6	gathering more and more labels to define myself.
0:36.6	Until one day, I realized that I was doing the exact opposite of what I truly wanted,
0:41.3	which was to strip away the layers and find my essential truth.
0:46.3	So if you've been following my journey, you've probably heard me talk about moving away from some of these external frameworks.
0:53.3	I've been on the path of removing labels, peeling back societal conditioning, questioning
0:59.0	questioning everything I thought I knew about myself.
1:02.0	It felt like the more I could let go of these definitions, the closer I could get to my authentic core.
1:09.0	But something interesting happened recently that completely shifted my
1:12.5	perspective on personality frameworks. I realized that these tools don't have to be about adding
1:18.4	more layers. They can actually help us identify the very patterns that we're trying to transcend.
1:24.8	So think about it like this. Imagine you're trying to untangle a complex knot.
1:30.3	You could just pull at random strings hoping to make progress.
1:34.3	Or you could study the pattern of the knot first, understanding exactly how it's twisted and turned,
1:40.3	making the untangling process much more intentional and effective.
1:45.0	Well, that's what these frameworks can do when we use them wisely.
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