I think for the first 20 years of our marriage, I was living, I was living in shame because

of my past, because of things that had happened to me, because of things that were done to

me, things I had done, and I was hiding continually in our marriage, and I became very self-protective,

and I don't even think I'd let you into those darker places of my life at the time.

That's a pretty big confession. That's half our marriage.

I know, and I think it's taken me probably just as long learning how to get out of that shame.

And the truth is, our past experiences and our past shame affect our marriages, and they

affect the way we parent.

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We're talking to a couple a few weeks ago, and they said, yeah, our past is not going to affect

our marriage. We're in our first year of marriage, and we just literally almost want to laugh

out loud, not that it's funny, but it's like, oh, you have no idea.

Yeah.

This will affect you. And like you said, for 20 some years, and especially this topic

of shame, which we've been talking about the last couple of days we've got Ron and Nandeele

back in the studio with us, we're going to do another day on this hot topic called

shame.

Oh, no.

Yes.

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