You're not weak for making mistakes.

You're not bad for making mistakes.

You're not a failure for making mistakes.

You are only weakened if you allow them to define you and you allow yourself to beat yourself

up.

What's up? Welcome back to Build and today we are talking about beating yourself up.

So today I wanted to talk about something that is near and dear to my heart because it is something

that I used to be really good at and I actually think I have gotten much better at.

And it wasn't until I had an incident a couple days ago that I really

realized how much progress I've made here. And I felt like it's a really important topic because

it's something that I find myself coaching a lot of CEOs, a lot of portfolio companies, and a lot of

my team on, especially those who are high performers who have a really high bar for themselves.

And that's really around this concept of beating yourself up.

And so like the what I wrote down in my notes, like beating yourself up isn't discipline.

It's just dumb.

And I really do think that this is probably one of the most important mindset shifts that I've ever made.

So if you're listening to this and you're the kind of person who you think that being hard on yourself is why you succeeded, then I want you to think about this, right? When you beat yourself up, right? Like, let's just think about it logically. You expend all of this energy telling yourself why you suck, telling yourself why you did a bad job,

thinking about ruminating on how you could have done something better. What that does, right,

is that time, is time that you steal from yourself to create solutions, to learn from the

mistake, to think about what to do better next time, to collaborate, to form a deeper

connection with the person that maybe you messed up in front of. So when I made that comparison

in my head, that's when I made the, oh, you know what? It is logical, and it makes way more sense

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