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Well, welcome back to another edition of Dr. James Dobson's Family Talk.

I'm Roger Marsh.

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And today, part two of our conversation with Dr. Kathy Cook, discussing her outstanding new book called Resolve Conflict and Find Peace and Hope with Your Adult Children.

We've got a link for that book up at

jdfi.net. Dr. Kathy, welcome back to Dr. James Dobson's family talk. I'm glad to be here.

Thank you so much. You know, the parenting landscape between adult children and their parents

seems really different now than it did before. And in our last program, you mentioned the fact that a lot of parents are dealing with the fact

that thinking they were going to be investing in their kids' lives and doing all these things

for them, they wound up idolizing them instead.

Talk about why that is so important for us to understand as a how did we get here a moment,

because I think it's, once you put it that perspective,

I'm like, well, of course. That makes perfect sense. The kid would say, I'm not here to heal your

wounds or to fulfill your needs. I'm here to be the person God created me to be. Exactly. Right.

So the main reason that we would want to change our idol worship of our kids is that it dishonors

God. You know, God was, God created us to

worship him. He is worthy of all praise and honor. He is completely everything we need in what he

does and in who he is. He meets all of our needs. And he's the one worthy of the adoration and

the honor. And if we do it with our kids, we're putting them in a place of God. It's not right for God. It's not right for us. And I think it's terrifying for a lot of our adult kids. They're feeling the pressure when they realize that if they're happy, we're happy. If they're sad, we're sad. If they have a good day, we have a good day. If they have a bad day, we have a bad day. And that's pressure that isn't theirs to feel. And I think it weakens so much. It's just mostly the pressure that they feel and that we need them to fulfill us. That's not appropriate. I get it. Like, you know, the first time your kid walked, like, you celebrate, you took pictures of all the efforts, you bragged on all social media platforms, and you were

so excited, rightly so. And when your kid graduated from high school, I mean, there's moments where

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