Well hey everybody welcome to your move where we help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.

I'm Andy Stanley and I'll be your guide and today we're talking about the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, our narratives.

Remember your high school narrative, my parents are such idiots, schools such a waste of time, and then you grew up and you realize my parents aren't idiots,

and school was definitely not a waste of time. But as adults we tell ourselves similar things, they don't care, it doesn't matter, it won't make any difference, or how about this one?

I don't do exercise, right? The problem with these narratives is that they become excuses and they set us up to become our own worst enemies.

So let's stop with all the false narratives and today I'll tell you how right here on your move.

Isn't it strange, I don't know if you ever think about this, but because I have to talk all the time I have to think of things people aren't thinking about, so I can make you think about it, so I have something to talk about.

That's kind of my life basically. Isn't it strange how we talk to ourselves because we all do this, right?

We have conversations with ourselves, it's like there's two of us in there, sometimes three. If you have four, I don't really want to meet you, but anyway, these conversations that we have with ourselves, eventually we get down to this really, really big question that we all wrestle with, and the question, this question is why?

And here's what we do, something happens and we think why did that happen, then we go to work trying to figure out why it happened, and why did this happen, why did this happen, why did this happen rather than that, and this is what I thought would happen, but this happened, and you can't help it, this is so human nature.

We have this extraordinary habit, this inclination to impose a reason on randomness. We impose a reason on it, something happens that doesn't make sense, and our minds just go to work trying to make sense out of randomness.

And what we do is we create a narrative, we create our own narrative, to basically make sense of things, right? We create a narrative to make sense of things. In fact, the worst, the incident, and the more personal the incident, the harder you work, and the harder I work to make sense out of that, because what's undeniable, regardless of your worldview, what's undeniable, is that we create, and often abide by, ourself imposed, narratives, whether they are accurate or not, whether they refer to it, or not.

Whether they reflect reality or not, and this can be a problem, this can be a problem. In fact, this can lead you as you have already experienced in your life, this isn't going to be new, I'm just going to put words around something you've already experienced.

This can lead you to become your own worst enemy.

So today, we are in part two of our series, if you're here last time, you already know this, how not to be your own worst enemy. Now, we've all been our own worst enemy, and in many cases, we can laugh about that season or that time in our life where we were our own worst enemy, but it's not always funny, right?

In fact, you've seen people, you've had friends or family members, who kind of did it big, like they were their own worst enemy, and their marriage, and blew up a marriage, blew up a career, blew up their health, blew up their financial stability.

And here's what we think, here's what I think, I know this is what you think. You think, I would never do that. I mean, watching it happen, you think, I would never let that happen to me.

But you have the potential to do whatever you've watched anybody else do, and we said this last week, because the reason we know you have the potential is because you have participated in all of your bad decisions.

100% of your bad decisions, you were there for all of them, in fact, you masterminded most of them, you were the mastermind behind most of them. And as we said last time, a single bad decision, right?

A single bad decision is always the first step toward becoming your own worst enemy. A single bad decision is always the first step toward becoming your own worst enemy.

Every habit begins with the first time. Every pattern begins with a first line. Every journey begins with a first step.

So in this series, I'm going to give you, I'm giving you three preemptive habits, three things we can all begin to do in every day or every week to preempt or to keep ourselves from becoming our own worst enemy, to ensure that you don't become your own worst enemy.

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