How Much Of Our Intimate Partner Relationships We Should Be Sharing

Relationship Advice

Colter Bloxom

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Sexuality

4.2 • 1.7K Ratings

🗓️ 14 May 2025

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

This episode explores the nuanced question of how much we should share about our intimate relationships with others, highlighting the spectrum between healthy connection and potential boundary violations. The hosts reflect on personal experiences and therapeutic insights to unpack the motivations behind sharing—such as co-regulation, validation, or humor—and examine how factors like upbringing, culture, and attachment styles shape our comfort with disclosure. The conversation emphasizes that couples benefit from explicit conversations about preferences, risks, and the importance of flexibility when navigating this topic. We cover topics such as: Motivations for Sharing Risks of Oversharing Family, Cultural, and Attachment Influence Need for Individual & Mutual Reflection And more! Give Me Discounts! Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar. Prolon - Visit ProlonLife.com/IDO to claim your 15% discount and your bonus gift. PXG - Visit PXGApparel.com/IDO or use promo code: PODAPP-IDO to save 10% off your Spring/Summer 2025 Collection order. Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:29.7	A while back I was at to dinner with some close friends. You know the kind of night where
0:33.4	the conversation flows, someone brings up something funny or frustrating. Their partner did. The table
0:39.1	erupts in laughter. And everyone chimes in with their own stories. Oh my gosh, you're not going to
0:43.2	believe what mine did. And then it happened. Someone turned to me and they said, Katie, and then it
0:48.9	happened. Someone turned to me and said, Coulter, what's your wife's most annoying habit? I laughed, and it's not because I
0:56.0	couldn't think of anything, but I felt this weird tension in my chest because part of me wanted to
1:00.5	join in to feel that sense of camaraderie and say something funny about how she eats her peas one
1:05.9	at a time. She doesn't do that, but, you know, something like that. But another part of me thought,
1:10.3	would she be okay with this? Would I be okay if this, if it were reversed, you know, something like that. But another part of me thought, would she be okay
1:11.5	with this? Would I be okay if this? If it were reversed, knowing that she's like exposing my
1:16.5	little dirty laundry and laughing about it with their friends. And that moment kind of stuck with me.
1:22.4	Because when it comes to our intimate relationships, how much is okay to share with other people?
1:28.9	Where's the line between healthy venting and violating privacy between seeking support and outsourcing the intimacy of your
1:34.9	partnership? Today's episode is all about that blurry space. When and how to talk about your
1:39.6	relationship with others, we'll explore how your family culture, attachment style, and personal
1:43.6	values shape what feels okay, we're off limits, family culture, attachment style, and personal values shape,
1:44.8	what feels okay, we're off limits, and how couples can navigate those differences with care
1:49.2	instead of conflict. Whether you're the open book or the vault in your relationship,
1:53.9	this one's for you. Let's dive in.
2:05.9	Welcome to relationship advice.
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