When I was young, pretty much all of the marriage and relationship advice I heard boiled down to wait as long as possible to do it.

Don't marry until you're 30, date as many people as you can, take care of yourself first.

Don't give up too much of yourself.

Date around, find someone who's perfect for you. And if they're not perfect for you,

kick their ass to the curb and move on with no regrets. Now statistics say that the past two generations have

apparently taken this advice to heart. The marriage rate is at an all-time low

people are waiting longer than ever to marry and people date more frequently and

date more people than ever before.

Non-monogamy is becoming a thing.

And the coup de gra, infidelity rates have risen every decade stretching all the way back

the free love 60s.

Now with dating apps, it's never been easier to drop one person

and skip right to the next one.

Sorting people by your ideal checklist of traits

is standard now, and the refrain of,

they weren't right for you you can do

better has never been stronger yet if you dig into the psychological literature the

findings are clear married people are happier they live longer they make money, they report more meaning and satisfaction in their

lives. Being in long, boring, stable relationships is good for our mental health and happiness.

Yet the message to young people seems to be the opposite.

Long-term relationships matter.

I didn't appreciate this until I was well into my 30s.

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