We are in a world that is always telling us it's dangerous.

And it's always telling us that others, the stranger, is dangerous.

And our nervous system really is a fast learner.

We're not going to be accessible to the stranger because we have been taught our lessons and we don't want to be injured.

So we have two things occurring. We have normal adaptive features of a body that needs to be held

and hugged and connected. And we also have our top down learning capacity, which says these are

signals of danger. I better respect them. So we basically, through both directions,

we end up, this is pulling back from the social nourishment that is around us. And we would call that

disorganized attachment. Or we have relationships where people think by nature of their biological

parenthood or relationship that they are attached when they're not

giving any signal that they are carrying or protecting of the other.

Welcome to Therapist Uncensored. Building on decades of professional experience, this podcast

tackles neurobiology, modern attachment, and more in an honest way that's

helpful in healing humans. Your session begins now with Dr. Anne Kelly and Sue Marriott.

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