Hi, I'm Kate. And I'm Lori. We've always thought that the most compelling story

strikes the perfect balance between an honest look at the mess of life and the humor that can be found in the mess.

To be perfectly honest, we don't really know how to live life without both the humor and the authenticity.

Our podcast might be a little bit of whiplash at times.

We can spin from hard and deep to humor and laughing on a dime.

The hard will be really hard and the truths we share are the ugliest of humanity.

We don't intend to make it seem like it's all fine or to pretty up the pain.

But we also know that the joy we found is all the more profound because of the pain.

So we hope you can stick with us through the ugly because there will also be joy and hope

and humor.

Welcome to the ugly truth about the girl next door.

Hello everyone. This is Lori, just me today, not Kate. So Kate and I agreed that it might be

helpful if I did a little bit of a recording about memory and how memory functions in our brains

and how trauma impacts memory. Because obviously it is,

you know, for folks to understand why now, we've referenced that so far already. Why is Kate

talking about it now? And some of you listening have known Kate for many years and maybe you're

asking yourself, right? So how is it that

she functioned one way for a long time and now suddenly is functioning differently now? If we don't

understand how memory operates, people sort of tend to fill in the blanks, right? So we, without information,

we use our existing body of knowledge to explain to ourselves

why things are happening. And it's sort of easy without the knowledge of how memory works to

misinterpret why someone would not perhaps be able to articulate a memory of a traumatic event

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