Raise your hand if you're a good girl, or like me, a woman who grew up being a good girl

and has maybe had some trouble shaking all of the expectations that come with that

about success, about perfection, about sacrifice. Well, Mahomafino knows what that's like, too,

and she wants all of us to free ourselves of these ideas of who or what we should be. She's got a

new book out, break the good girl myth, how to dismantle outdated rules,dated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life.

And in it, she takes the tools she learned in design thinking

and serves them up for anyone who wants to build a life on their own terms.

Tell me about a time in your life that captures your good girl behavior.

Mm-hmm.

A time in my current life, like as an adult.

Or as a child, I'd take either.

Okay.

Well, as a child, I can definitely paint the good girl image. I open up my book with this image of me as going to Catholic school, wearing my uniform, being really nervous.

My ponytail is really tight.

My shoes are very polished and this feeling of, are the girls going to like me?

Am I going to be accepted?

Having a lot of anxiety about going to school.

And really feeling like I had to be the best

daughter of immigrants I could possibly be to repay my parents. And the way that played out in

my later years in adulthood has been being a hyper-achiever, like just wanting to excel in every

area of life from work to every relational role and having this

chronic sense that I'm not enough or I'm failing is what I call the good girl myth of perfection,

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