How Long Does It Take To Leave a Narcissist?
The Mental Healness Podcast
Lee Hammock
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🗓️ 14 October 2025
⏱️ 18 minutes
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How Long Does It Take To Leave a Narcissist? How many times do people normally go back to a narcissist or back to a toxic relationship?
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| 0:00.0 | So how long or how many times does it take to leave a narcissist or to leave an abusive, toxic relationship? |
| 0:10.3 | That's what we're talking about today, y'all. |
| 0:11.8 | That's the question that we're hammering away at this morning. |
| 0:15.9 | Because I get this question a lot. |
| 0:17.9 | I actually get a variation, this exact question or a variation of it, |
| 0:22.8 | a lot of times in my comment section. A lot of people ask me like, well, Lee, how long does it |
| 0:27.9 | take the leave? I've left three times. Lee, how long does it take the leave? I've left eight times. |
| 0:33.4 | How long does it take the leave? I left 10 times. I was like, first of all, it takes as long as it takes. |
| 0:41.3 | But statistically, they've done, yeah, they've calculated. |
| 0:44.8 | They've done numbers on this. |
| 0:45.9 | It takes, on average, a survivor of domestic violence or toxic relationship dynamics takes them seven times to leave. |
| 0:56.7 | Seven. |
| 0:58.5 | Seven. |
| 0:59.5 | It takes them seven times to get on up out of there for good, right? |
| 1:04.3 | And again, that's the average, an on average of seven times. |
| 1:08.5 | So y'all know how we get averages. |
| 1:10.6 | Even when I gave y'all the comments, I gave |
| 1:13.7 | you a way to get to the average. I said three times. I said eight times. I said 10 times. In total, |
| 1:19.8 | that's 21 times. You divide that 21 by three. You get an average of three, seven times. |
| 1:29.5 | So it takes every, look, and that seven times can be stretched over a, it can be stretched. |
| 1:35.9 | It can be stretched out. |
| 1:37.2 | It does not have to be today, tomorrow, seven times in the same day. |
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