How Judging Others (and Yourself) is Sabotaging You with Jessica Frew

Self-Helpless

Cloud10

Comedy, Science, Alternative Health, Health & Fitness, Education

4.8 • 3K Ratings

🗓️ 6 December 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Delanie Fischer chats with Jessica Frew, author of Shove Your Shoulds, about building confidence around decision-making. They dive into practical strategies for identifying and shifting out of “should” thinking, learning to make value-based decisions (big or small) more swiftly, and overcoming the overwhelm that can keep us stuck in indecision. Episode Highlights: How to Build Your Decision-Making Muscle Identifying Your Daily “Shoulds” Looking for “Proof” vs. Trusting Your Gut When to Stay or Leave a Situation 7 Practical Tips for Getting Decisive Why Judging Others Is Hurting You Most The 1 Small Decision To Make When Overwhelmed ⁠CozyEarth.com ⁠- Right now, my code HELPLESS can give you up to 40% off in savings. ____ A quick 5-star rating for Self-Helpless means so much! ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/self-helpless/id1251196416⁠ Free goodies like The Quote Buffet + The Watch & Read List: ⁠https://www.selfhelplesspodcast.com/⁠ Ad-free episodes on ⁠Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/selfhelpless⁠ Your Host, Delanie Fischer:⁠ https://www.delaniefischer.com⁠ ____ Related Episodes: When My Husband Came Out: Sexuality, Betrayal, and Healing with Jessica Frew: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/229e6642/when-my-husband-came-out-sexuality-betrayal-and-healing-with-jessica-frew Stop Asking Yourself the Wrong Questions: How to Unlock Deeper Fulfillment with Elliott Connie: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/365204fb/stop-asking-yourself-the-wrong-questions-how-to-unlock-deeper-fulfillment-with-elliott-connie Release Your Perfectionism Handbrake: Power Planning, Clean Rest, and Demystifying Procrastination with Sam Laura Brown: https://www.delaniefischer.com/selfhelplesspodcast/episode/22e1c287/release-your-perfectionism-handbrake-power-planning-clean-rest-and-demystifying-procrastination-with-sam-laura-brown Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	We are Allie and Erica, certified integrative nutrition health coaches in gut and hormone health
0:05.8	and the hosts of the podcast, Courageous Wellness.
0:08.2	We are committed to destigmatizing conversations in the wellness space and celebrate the experiences and lessons of our guests in pursuit of physical, emotional, and spiritual wellness.
0:19.2	Listen to Courageous Wellness wherever you get your podcast with fresh episodes every Wednesday.
0:25.3	Lately, I've been so stuck in my head that I forget just about everything my therapist said.
0:34.1	Maybe I'm self-helpless.
0:36.3	Hey, everyone, welcome to self-helpless where science, spirituality, and sustainability are brunch buddies.
0:41.3	I'm Delaney Fisher, and details about today's topic can be found in the episode description.
0:46.6	Returning listeners, if an episode of Self-Houpless has supported you in some way, a quick five-star rating or review, if you haven't left one already. Honestly, keeps this
0:55.4	indie podcast alive amidst the big old budget behemoths out there. So thank you for feeding the
1:01.8	algorithm a little treat for me. Ad-free episodes are now on Patreon at patreon.com slash self-helpless.
1:08.4	And info about some free goodies will be shared in the outro okay it's
1:12.3	podcast time all the decisions that you've made in your own life i mean leaving leaving a marriage
1:18.9	getting remarried even stepping away from certain religious practices that no longer felt
1:23.9	like a fit for you starting a business making decisions about co-parenting.
1:28.4	What is the importance of learning the skills to be decisive and also just to understand
1:34.0	what's driving our decisions in the first place?
1:37.4	We get so hung up on whether this is right or wrong or good or bad or what does this
1:43.3	mean about me if I make this
1:45.2	decision and it keeps us stuck often for years like months, years, whatever.
1:52.6	So no matter what it is that we're navigating, I mean, I work with so many women who are going
1:57.4	through big life transitions, whether that's divorce or trying to decide am I staying
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