How Important Is Sexual & Physical Attraction: A Candid Conversation with Christian Men

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Talk Radio, Christianity, Default, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 4 September 2018

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship? What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don’t find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there’s strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you’re looking for? What if you’re married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog. Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? My Mind Says Yes – My Body Says No? In today’s episode, I’m having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I’m talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you’ll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you’re going to love this candid conversation. Physical Attraction 101 In this hot-topic episode, we cover: 2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you’ve got a healthy understanding of physical attraction. The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it. We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted. How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction. Understanding your typical “type” and when to be open to other options. Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things. Learning whether or not you’re living in “the extremes” and whether or not you have healthy expectations. Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of “physical attraction” in the equation of what you’re looking for (yep, I said it). The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it! Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse. I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book Choosing Marriage. The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife! Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You’re going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Gary Thomas, and find all the info about his latest books, at his blog. And be sure to check out my two favorite marriage books he’s written: Sacred Marriage, and Cherish. Find out more about the understanding your attraction template and your sexual pallet, and learn ways to rekindle attraction in marriage in my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hey, everyone, welcome back to the Love and Relations relationships podcast. I'm your host, Deborah
0:23.3	Felita, and it's so great to be together again and chat all things love, sex, dating, marriage,
0:29.5	and singleness. For those of you who don't know me, I'm a licensed professional counselor and
0:34.6	author specializing in relationship issues, and I'm here to take your
0:39.0	relationship questions. I've written hundreds of relationship articles across the internet,
0:44.5	and my relationship advice blog, true love dates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of
0:50.2	healthy relationships. And that's really what I'm passionate about. One of the most common questions I get on the blog has to do with physical attraction.
1:01.3	How important is physical attraction in a relationship?
1:06.1	And what should you do if you're dating someone that you aren't attracted to in that way?
1:12.9	What about physical attraction in marriage?
1:16.2	That might sound like a no-brainer to you, but if you're single, did you know that over 50% of married people who took my choosing marriage polls identified that at some point in their
1:29.9	marriage, they struggled with feeling a lack of physical attraction to their spouse.
1:36.3	That's a shocker if you're single, isn't it? But it's the truth. So how do you navigate the ebb and
1:43.2	flow of physical attraction in marriage? And how do you navigate the ebb and flow of physical attraction in marriage?
1:46.0	And how do you go into a relationship having healthy expectations of what physical attraction
1:52.2	is supposed to look like? In today's episode, we're going to cover all that and a whole lot more
1:58.1	in a very candid way. First up, I'm talking to a young man who is struggling
2:04.2	to get his expectations right about being physically attracted to the girls he's dating.
2:10.2	After our conversation, I have a special guest joining us, pastor and relationship author,
2:16.9	Gary Thomas, who's going to add a few important
2:19.9	thoughts to this topic. So let's go ahead and get started with our first caller.
2:30.5	Today on the show, we have Daniel from Dallas, Georgia, joining us.
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