How Important Is It to Be Likable?

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Gwyneth Paltrow

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

4.3 • 7.1K Ratings

🗓️ 17 December 2019

⏱️ 41 minutes

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Summary

“It’s not as simple as choosing not to care—you’re caught in a bind either way,” says Alicia Menendez, MSNBC anchor and author of The Likeability Trap. Menendez joins Elise Loehnen to talk about why many women are presented with two options: being a good leader or being liked. She urges us to stop responding to situations with the hope we will be more liked. And instead, she suggests that we ask ourselves whether we are being clear with our vision and executing it well. Through her research, Menendez has identified principles that good leaders follow—which sometimes means making decisions that other people don’t like. (For more, see The goop Podcast hub.) To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Don't hold anything too tightly. Just wish for it, want it, let it come from the
0:10.6	intention of real truth for you, and then let it go. For me our soul is like it's
0:16.8	unbound, it's limitless, but we will use words to limit ourselves. When people
0:23.2	stop believing that somebody's got your back or Superman's coming we turn to
0:28.9	ourselves and that's where you become empowered. Courageous participation attracts positive things.
0:37.3	I'm Gwyneth Paltrow. This is the Goop podcast bringing together thought leaders,
0:43.0	culture changers, creatives, founders and CEOs, scientists, doctors, healers and seekers.
0:49.9	Here to start conversations because simply asking questions and listening has the power to change
0:55.6	the way we see the world. Today is no exception. I'll let Elise fill you in on her extraordinary guest.
1:03.6	All right, over to Elise. Elisea Menendez is a host, television commentator and the author
1:10.6	of the Likeability Trap, a book that I loved. Trust me when I say any woman looking to be
1:15.9	successful in her career will resonate with these pages. Women are caught and abined when it comes
1:21.6	to being well liked. In the workforce women seem to have to sacrifice likeability for leadership
1:26.1	and vice versa. It begs the question, what really matters? Today, Elisea is sharing the differences
1:32.4	between likeability, relatability and popularity and some of the personality traits that influence
1:37.4	the way we are perceived. We learn about what helps us and harms us when it comes to moving ahead
1:43.0	in our careers. Luckily Menendez has some advice to help us navigate. She urges us to shift away from
1:49.8	responding to situations with the hope of being liked and to instead learn better ways of communicating
1:54.6	clearly and executing what needs to be done. Instead of having an interaction or approaching a workplace
2:00.8	situation and thinking, how do I come out of this well liked by the person I'm interacting with
2:06.7	instead focusing on? Am I clear on what I want? Am I clear on what I need? Am I communicating those
2:12.0	needs correctly? And am I communicating clearly to this person the role that they will play in executing
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