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Years ago, before Emily and I had Iris, we had an argument.

Okay, not just one argument, there were plenty of them.

But there is one fight in particular that I will not forget.

I don't remember what it was about, but I do remember how that fight ended, with Emily absolutely

exasperated. She told me that the real reason we were fighting wasn't because of her emotions.

I'm sure that's a claim that I made earlier in said argument.

She said that we were fighting based on something totally different.

The real reason was that I had no idea how to engage with her emotions,

and I was totally unaware of my own and she said until I

figured out how to be emotionally healthy those issues wouldn't stop. The

minute she said it I knew she was. I knew that I was like a man living in a 16 bedroom house who only used two rooms.

I really had no idea what was happening in the other 14, and I pretended that it didn't really matter.

I also knew that wasn't always the case.

I used to feel deeply as I think all people do at some point in their life.

But those feelings were sometimes painful, sometimes inconvenience, sometimes distracting

and even embarrassing.

And so at some point in the five years before that fight, I found the emotional shutoff valve and I turned it as tight as I could and I just went on with my life

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