I think this is going to be one of those episodes. It's going to have like a part three, part 12,

part 77 about it because it's honestly just something that comes up a lot in conversations. People ask me a lot of questions about this.

I always want to know, how did I know

that my husband was the one?

Also, I don't know how well you guys can pick up on this,

but like, pregnancy exhaustion is so real today I just like I feel like I'm just

breathing excessively into the microphone so I'm not so much apologizing for that because life is real and real is life what does that mean?

I'm just letting you guys know that I'm super aware of it and yeah welcome to my life.

So how did I know that my husband was a one,

literally like the most popular question

that I get in my Instagram diems?

And I think that some people are genuinely just asking like how did I know that he was the one I wanted to marry, but I do want to back up and dissect the question first because I do think that some people are asking how did I know that he was the one and that is a phrase that we use a lot in dating culture I think especially Christian dating culture of like finding the one that is like I guess the you know just the one that we would marry and that's a complicated one because I don't so much believe in the one.

I don't really want to get into all of the whys and hows

and what's about that right now

because I do think that that's a little bit complex.

But I will just at least say for now that I never lived my life looking for the one or waiting for the one

because to give any person the exclusive right to my joy or my happiness would be giving them what I believe only

Jesus can give me. And so my ultimate value and my ultimate hope and my ultimate joy is already found in the

one who I believe is the one that did save me and is my hero and is the best of the best who I believe is Jesus.

And so I do struggle a little bit with considering the option or the concept of my husband is the one

because I just I struggle without giving any human that type of platform in my life.

The second thing that I would say on why I'm not really into the whole the one concept in that phrase is I believe that it again gives too much of like a pedestal to one person and again.

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