How Do You Grieve Someone Who Isn’t Dead with the Antlers

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Feelings & Co.

Mental Health, Society & Culture, Personal Journals, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 27 January 2026

⏱️ 94 minutes

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Today, Nora interviews Peter Silberman of the Antlers, a band whose album Hospice changed her life twice: first in 2010, after a horrible breakup, and then in 2011, when her husband was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. Over a decade later, thanks to a little bit of fate and Peter’s cousin April, Nora and Peter talk about the album, what it means, grief, anger, and how art connects us all. Watch us on YouTube here! Get this episode ad-free here! Listen to Geoffrey’s album on Spotify and Apple! Shop my favorite bras and underwear at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SKIMS.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. After you place your order, be sure to let them know I sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select my show in the dropdown menu that follows. Find your fall staples at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/TFA⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! All-in-one nutrition for daily performace at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DrinkAg1.com/THANKS⁠ Check out Rocket Money at⁠ rocketmoney.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:05.0	Hi.
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1:06.6	Hi. Hi. Hi. Hey, Nora.
1:18.3	I'm Nora McInerney, and this is thanks for asking, a call-in show about what matters to you.
1:30.4	The thing about art is that it is going to mean something different to everyone. Maybe you have read a book or a poem or watched a movie or listened to an album and loved it so much or hated it so much that you
1:35.7	wanted to talk about it with somebody, only to find out that they feel the exact opposite
1:41.6	of the way that you do.
1:52.8	Maybe you've revisited a song or an album or a poem or a TV show years later thinking one very specific thing about it and then found out that your mind has changed.
1:59.7	Your perspective has changed. That this thing that meant something to you
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