How do you balance matching and mirroring behavior with communicating problems?

Yeah, I've had several phone sessions recently where that's kind of an issue.

So you got communication problems.

There might be an attachment style issue.

Because some people, I mean, we all tend to learn our skills from our families, the people that we, we model

what we see growing up. And so somebody that stonewalls you, goes, I don't want to talk about

it, and they just won't talk about it, and they just won't talk about it, and it's to hang up on you

when you try to figure out what's going on. It's like, you can't work anything out if you can't

talk openly and honestly about things. And's like you can't work anything out if you can't talk openly and honestly

about things. And so when you have those kinds of situations where you're trying to communicate

with where you're having friction and you get stonewalled or she's got a stew about it for two

or three days and then calls you up when she feels a little better.

And now you just got three days where you're just, you don't know what's going on or whether you're coming or going in your relationship.

That's not fun. It's not fun to be in a relationship with somebody like that.

What was the question again?

How do you balance matching and mirroring behavior with communicating problems?

So if you've got your girl is just disappearing on you like that or refusing to communicate,

she hung up on you when you try to figure out what was going on.

And three days later she reaches

back out you that's part of when you're in the vetting process aside is this kind of do I want to

deal with this so you're going to have to talk with you're saying hey you're mad we got to talk it out

and giving me the silent treatment for three days and refusing to speak to me that's abusive that's

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